Hmm is this awkward, isn't it? Your bag's packed and ready to go. The nursery's ready. You've chosen a name. But your little one isn't ready yet.
Try to be patient! Your big adventure starts soon. You could use this extra time to relax with your feet up and plan your exciting future with your baby.
It's not unusual to go past your due date, but obviously this can't go on forever. You know it. And your baby needs to know it too.
It's usually fine to go over by a week or so without any extra risks. However about 10 or 12 days after your due date, your placenta starts to work less well, and your chance of a stillbirth increases. Your care providers will discuss the best ways forward with you, which could involve extra monitoring or induction.
You might be offered a 'membrane sweep' to start with. This is where your midwife or doctor sweeps their finger around inside you and separates your cervix from the membranes around your baby. The idea is to stimulate hormones that could bring on your contractions. You can watch a little video about it here.
For many women, it does the trick, and labour starts within 24-48 hours. However you may need a couple of sweeps to get going, and it doesn't work for everyone.
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Around 1 in 5 births are induced, which means that drugs are used to get the labour going.
You might be offered a membrane sweep to start with - this can feel uncomfortable, but it doesn't harm you or the baby.
A drug called prostaglandin is then used to open up the cervix and get contractions going. It's put into the vagina as a gel or tablet. It can also be delivered through a pessary, which looks like a mini tampon and releases the drug over 24 hours.
You may need to have your waters broken if they don't break naturally. You may also be offered a drip containing another drug called syntocinon if the labour needs to be speeded up.
There's a lot to consider when you're offered an induction, so ask as many questions as you like. Here are a couple of the pros and cons…
There could be medical reasons why it's important for your baby to be delivered sooner rather than later. Induction can often avoid the need for a caesarean.
It could be more painful than a spontaneous delivery. You're more likely to end up with an assisted delivery using forceps (which are a bit like tongs) or a ventouse (which is a special suction cup).
You can read more about your options here.
You could be feeling very frustrated that your baby's dragging their heels. Try to stay calm, as that's best for you and the baby! Your mantra for this week is: 'Only 5% of babies come on their due date'.
Your signs of pregnancy could include:
Tommy's the baby charity has produced a pregnancy guide with a further list of symptoms.
The average baby is now around 3-4kg. We won't be too precise now, but imagine that there's a small pumpkin or a watermelon sitting in your stomach. The fast period of growth is now over. Your baby should be chubby enough, and mature enough, to survive in the big wide world, without any assistance.
Overdue babies tend to have red, dry and peeling skin. This is usually because they've lost their vernix, which is the greasy layer that stops their skin from drying out in the amniotic fluid. Don't be tempted to moisturise your baby's rough skin, as it could make it even worse. The red layer will peel off after a few days, without any help, revealing perfect skin underneath.
You can find out more about what your baby will look like here.
You're probably feeling like a giant whale, and hardly photogenic, but get your partner to take a picture of you, right now, at your very peak of ripeness. One day, you'll look back and laugh…and your baby will love to see the photo when they're older!
This week you could also...
You're probably on leave now. Find out how much leave and pay you're entitled to.
It’s a good time to tone up those muscles ‘down under’. Gentle exercises can help to prevent leakage when you laugh, sneeze, cough or jump around on your future baby’s trampoline. Get the muscles going by pretending that you’re having a wee and then stop the ‘urine’ in midflow.
Get moving! It’s recommended that pregnant women do 150 minutes of exercise throughout the week. Perhaps take a brisk walk in the park, or go for a swim. Don’t overdo it though, particularly in these last few weeks - listen to your body.
Don’t eat for two! Eat for you. Now you’re in the third trimester, you may need an extra 200 calories a day, but that’s not much. It’s about the same as two slices of wholemeal toast and margarine.
How are you today? If you’re feeling anxious or low, then talk to your midwife or doctor who can point you in the right direction to get all the support that you need. You could also discuss your worries with your partner, friends and family. You may be worried about your relationship, or money, or having somewhere permanent to live. Don’t bottle it up – you’re important, so ask for help if you need it!
Getting pregnant again is probably the last thing on your mind! However now is a good time to start planning what type of contraception you would like to use after your baby is born. Making this decision when you’re pregnant will give you one less thing to think about when you’re looking after a newborn baby. Getting pregnant again could happen sooner than you realise and too short a gap between babies is known to cause problems. Talk to your GP or midwife to help you decide and get everything in place.
Get a new box set or book that will entertain you while you're waiting for your baby to arrive. Make it a good one – and then you can enjoy dipping back into it when the baby's born. You don't need to splash the cash – borrow from a friend, check charity shops, or visit your local library. Now put your feet up and enjoy it!
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